Balance. Google-defined as the following:
- Noun. An even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to remain upright and steady.
- Verb. Offset or compare the value of (one thing) with another.
Trying to achieve balance in the quarter life is like trying to nurse a hangover before a really big presentation at work. Its pretty painful, sometimes messy, and leaves you feeling really drained yet strangely triumphant at the same time. And no matter how many times your swear to yourself that it will be THE last time it happens, you find yourself in the exact same situation two weeks later.
Why the immense struggle to attempt to achieve a state wherein everything is just right? Well, why the heck not? Isn’t that something that everyone wants? To find a state of being where everything is steady, where all your wants and needs balance out? At 25 and living in such a topsy turvy world, most all of my energy is spent trying to find the almost perfect equilibrium of career, family, friendship, love, faith, hopes, and dreams.
In life, I honestly believe it is always important to recognize what truly matters to you. For me, I find comfort and joy the most in the relationships I have with others, how I interact with people in the world I’m living in. And more even more essential is the quality of those relationships. In order to maintain lasting and nurturing relationships, you have to strike the right balance. You spend too much time at work and you lose time with your friends. Spend too much time with your friends and you hardly see your family. Devote all your time to your significant other and everyone else becomes a stranger. Spend all your time with yourself and… you become a hermit. Indeed, it is a challenge and something your have to continuously work on in order to accomplish especially when there are many distractions that try to grab your attention and prevent your from your goal.
Basically, its work-life balance or passion-life balance or family-life balance, whatever you want to call it. For me, as a person who likes to always plan ahead but live in the day to day at the same time, I consider it a great victory when I get lucky and am able to have all the pieces of my life fall into place at the exact time they’re supposed to.
It’s a week wherein I get to: complete work targets I set and help others as a result; have a good lunch day with my co-workers; have dinner with my family; see my friends for laughter and drinks; go on a date night(s) with my boyfriend; and at the end of it all find some quality time to be with myself and unwind.
As I grow older and considerably more distracted it sometimes seems impossible for me to balance all my relationships without stretching myself too thin or sacrificing the quality I give so much weight to, but I take comfort in the knowledge that it can be done! (IT CAN!) It’s like finding out the exact way you like to take your coffee. It takes a lot of trial and error, a lot of stirring, wasted coffee cups, spilled creamer and empty sugar packets before you finally take that one, delicious sip and say aah! Perfection.