No matter how old you are, you can always learn something valuable from children – from how they deal with others, to how they look at life, and their overall disposition.
Below are 6 childlike traits we believe we should possess even as adults:
1. Seeing the good in other people. As adults, our undesirable experiences of the world can make us suspect the intentions of others. We often ask ourselves “can I trust this person?” or “what does this person really want from me?” Children, however, are naturally open and trusting toward people in general. Their naivete is the primary reason for why it is so easy for them to make friends.
When you meet someone new, are you quick to cast judgment before taking the time to know them? Do you lose the opportunity to create meaningful connections and friendships because of your suspicious attitude?
2. Being unafraid to ask for help. The pride that comes from independence in adulthood is often what hinders us from asking others for help, even if we really need it. Children are well aware of their limitations as well, but are much more comfortable with them. While self-sufficiency is an admirable trait, it is equally admirable to be humble in recognizing where one’s own weaknesses lie.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you struggle, or when you need a second opinion on making a decision. It will pay off in the long run!
3. Finding joy in simple things. When we are babies, we giggle at the silly sounds and faces the adults around us make. When we are children, our humor becomes more developed and we become as capable of cracking jokes as enjoying them. When we become adults however, we allow ourselves to succumb to the burdens and stresses of life, and moments of laughter become more scarce in our daily routines.
Laughter can be the best medicine. Engage in conversations with people who make you laugh, take time to make others laugh too with your humor and see the difference it makes in your day.
4. No fear of the future. When we are children, the world is our oyster. We have this almost reckless sense of adventure and have no fear of the future. To children, risks are not risks, but possibilities. As adults, we become more calculated, more cautious…and often with good reason! But sometimes, we stop ourselves from going after something because we afraid of failing or getting hurt.
What is holding you back from something you really want to do? Are your fears warranted, or are you creating them yourself?
5. Genuineness towards others. Children have no hidden agendas and their intentions are pure and simple. What you see and hear from them is exactly what you get. As adults, we learn how to be conniving, manipulative, and sarcastic. We have tendencies to not mean what we say.
Pay close attention to your conversations and relationships today and ask yourself, “Am I being truly authentic towards the people around me?”
6. Simple understanding of life. When we are children, life is simple and so are we. As we grow to become adults, our desires become more ambitious. We are taught to amass wealth, fame, power, success… but is that what’s really important? Sometimes, we need to go back to a child’s wonder: other people. When was the last time you were perfectly happy because you were grateful for the people you have in your life? Let’s not get blinded by the never-ending pursuit of success, and let’s remember that the joy of life comes from loving, truly loving, others.
Children possess a certain kind of wonder that we can all call back to, appreciate, and make sure we relearn as adults if we’ve lost these basics. Don’t forget to be someone who encourages young people—and even those a little older—to remember these beautiful traits and keep them alive throughout adulthood!