“Bakit ganito?”, “Bakit ganyan?”
These are the common questions you hear from people who are fond of complaining.
We all complain. Sometimes, we complain without even realizing it. Others make it a habit; they complain each time something doesn’t go according to their own plans. I’ve found though that, when you are able to see things through a different perspective and simply stop complaining, you’ll end up feeling happier.
Here are some of the things you can do instead of complaining:
1. Focus on what you have rather on the things you don’t have
I think most of us complain because we feel things are unfair and out of our control. We think of ourselves less as a person because of the things we don’t have. We often ask ourselves this question, “Why do they have so much when I have nothing?”
Rather than focusing on the things you don’t have, discover what’s special about you and how you can add value to your own life. Attend workshops and participate in different activities that can make you feel good as a person. Remind yourself that you are created for something better and that you can do more than what you can ever imagine.
2. Don’t Jump and Judge
We often complain about others because we think that they are not up to our standards. Try to put yourself in their shoes. When we stop judging others and accept that each of us have our own unique stories, we will most likely complain less about what other people do.
3. Take Responsibility
We often make excuses for the things we fail to do. Try to take responsibility of your thoughts and actions. I think it’s not having negative thoughts that can harm you, but it’s doing nothing to solve the problem. Man up and take charge.
4. Make a list of things you’re grateful for
This is a simple yet amazing way to remind yourself how great life is. The #brew2015 challenge of keeping a Gratitude Jar really made me see how the Lord has blessed me with so many things. I also recommend keeping a journal to keep track of the things we’re grateful for because it makes us more appreciative of the daily blessings in our lives.
5. Be the change you wish to see in the world
Before blurting out any complaint, take a moment to pause and think about what you want to say. Instead of complaining, engage in meaningful conversations or simply keep quiet. You can’t expect everyone to have the same principles that you do but you can use them to inspire others so that they can .
This may be a list of 5 simple things, but reality is it can be very hard to master. Always remember though that even if you fail in doing one, you can always start again. Take small steps. Instead of complaining that the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses.