Dear Overthinker

Dear Overthinker,

I know you are tired. You are busy. You worry too much. Overthinking has become your hobby. When you are quiet or just having a break, you just cannot not think. You wonder, “How do I stop myself from thinking?” The only positive thing you get from overthinking is that you are able to validate that you are smart. Smart people make simple things complicated. Then, you will overthink about this and you will conclude you are not.

Your mind is like a forest. Your thoughts grow like wild trees with too many intertwining roots. They form too many branches that break, fall, and rejuvenate. Your seeds of thoughts are scattered everywhere. You are always noisy in your head.  You worry today and I’m sure tomorrow you will worry again. Once you solve your problems today, you will have a new set of problems tomorrow. It never ends.

Reduce your fear of deadlines. Finish what is urgent, what is more important. Renew your passion with the things you onced love. As you grow old, you may realize that passion is just a feeling. But if it is a feeling that excites you most and boosts your energy, you have to keep it going. All kinds of jobs can be exhausting, that’s why it’s important to find your purpose. Once you do, be willing to make all those little sacrifices to fulfill it.

Remember to unwind. Find ways to entertain yourself with whatever you have. Watch movies that make you laugh. Read a book that feeds your soul. Eat well.

You glorify busyness and you commend those who can multitask. But you, my friend, know your weakness.  You will think too much over a single task and you will think much more over many tasks. Take it one step at a time. Make your own system of doing things that works for you.  Don’t let anxiety rule over you.

List down what your priorities are everyday.  This is a little trick you can do to organize your thoughts and to prevent your brain from wandering.

Take note that life is not a race. It just has many phases. And the best way to deal with each phase is with your own pace. Be patient with yourself. You just can’t force a flower to bloom even if it is not  yet its season. Focus on what you have control over.

Hope for beautiful things in the future. You, as an overthinker, are fond of predicting the future. You think of 100 possible scenarios of a single action. You always have a Plan B. That’s a good girl scout trait. But don’t waste too much of your brain cells on trying to resolve imagined fears.

Know your limits. Listen to your body. Sleep when your body asks for it, even if your mind tells you not to. Don’t say “yes” to every opportunity. Rank your priorities accordingly.

Never forget the people who love you. Send a message. Make your presence felt even if they are  miles away. Overthinking will take them away from your thoughts.

Even if things don’t work out as planned, even if you miscalculate risks, life will always compensate you with new wisdom and renewed strength.

And even if you will not be the best or have the best, you are still living a life worth living.

About the Contributor

Jackie Belo is a Client Services Executive, storyteller, writer, and a feminist. She is currently taking Master of Arts in Women and Development in University of the Philippines Diliman.

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  1. Renz says:

    Well-written inspirational piece deep from the heart since I can relate very well. I hope you continue your writing so you can inspire and motivate more people.

    1. Jackie says:

      thank you very much! glad this letter to myself resonates well with you 🙂

  2. Nica says:

    Thank you for this. You don’t know how much it helped me. May God bless you.