In every tombstone, there are two important dates you will notice- the date of birth and the date of death. And in between those two dates is a little dash.
That little dash represents your life. That little dash is your life here in earth.
I’ve been thinking about what I have done to that little dash in my 24 years of living, . Has it been remarkable? Has it been memorable, fun or even adventurous? In that little dash of yours, what have you built to make it worth remembering? What are you building in this life that will really last?
Is it career? Position? Property? Your family? Your values? Or your advocacy?
I was reminded in 1 Corinthians 3:9. “For we are God’s fellow workers, you are God’s field. God’s building”.
We are just God’s fellow worker. The truth of the matter is, He is the one who makes things grow, not us. Whether we work hard to build our careers, income, and positions, He is still the one who will dictate what our purpose is. We are His field and He will build us according to His desire.
Money, career and any other worldly matters– all of these will not last. But our relationship with Him will. If we want to build something here on earth that will last, we need to start by building a relationship with God because He is our foundation.
The second thing you have to build on that will make your little dash remarkable and memorable is your relationship with other people. In Mitch Albom’s Have a Little Faith, there was a story about the second death: the death of being forgotten. The thought of dying without anyone remembering you. Oblivion.
So how do you avoid the second death? In the short run, the answer is simple: family. It is through my family that I hope to live on for the next generations. When they remember me, I live on. When they pray for me, I live on. All the memories we made, the laughs and the tears. (Excerpt from Have a Little Faith)
Start building a healthy, peaceful and joyful relationship with your family. Spend quality time with them. Bond with them. Laugh with them.
Then comes your friends, ministry, officemates, and your smallgroup/club members. The advice is to value every person you meet. Spend your time, energy and money on these people rather than excessive spending on lavish and material things.
To end this, I’d like to recall that beautiful scene in the movie Bucket List when the cast was gazing at the Pyramid of Giza, thinking about the ancient Egyptians’ belief on death. When souls got to the entrance of heaven, the gods would ask them only two questions and their answers would determine whether they were admitted in or not.
These are the two questions that you might want to reflect on to mark your little dash.
Have you found joy in your life?
Has your life brought joy to others?