All circumstances are three-dimensional.
Sometimes we find ourselves living in the grey areas, in half “okay”s and half “not-okay”s. We paint our pictures in tones of mediocrity, to the tune of static routine. After all: expectation is the mother of disappointment.
Sometimes also, we work with the dark areas. We paint our pictures with all the blacks and darks that we have, until our canvasses look more like a flat, cloudy sky. Black is simple. It’s easy to cover our lives with the negative, with words of grumbling and disdain, with the “what if”s and “could have been”s and every negativity in between. But when we take a step back, we’ll wonder where the color or the beauty is. Because all we’ll see is darkness. It’s all black, because that’s what we painted.
But very rarely do we find someone who, unlike painting in greys and blacks, has learned to paint sunshine in every situation. Very rarely do we find someone who can see the light more than the dark, who understands that indeed, without light, we cannot see at all. And even more rare is the person who, in the darkest of places, is like a prism that can take what tiny pinhole of light there is and turn it into a spectrum of color.
The question is: Which kind of person are we?
We usually expect life to give us our rainbows. We look for some kind of light, some kind of sign, some kind of goodness that will make it all better, hoping that it comes to us as though the universe owes us anything. But we forget that it is by light that we even see anything at all
In other words, there will always be light. There is always color around us. There is always something to be grateful for. There is always goodness to choose.
We just rarely pay attention to it.
If something exists, whether good or bad, there is light to illuminate it. Sometimes the light is a little, sometimes it’s a lot. But to be able to paint a beautiful picture of our lives, we must learn to look at the light, and see how it illuminates our surroundings. We may have to squint a bit, but that’s alright. When we train our eyes to see light in the dark places, we train our minds to see things for what they are. Only then can our hands paint beautiful images that last.
From the small things (like bad traffic) to the big things (like bad mistakes), I encourage you to fix your eyes on the light. You don’t have to wait for a rainbow; go on and make it yourself. Wait and let your eyes adjust for a bit, but don’t linger on squinting. Train your eyes to focus on the positive. Train your lips to speak goodness rather than grumbling. Train your mind to kill bad worries and plant good hope.
Focus on the light, and everything else will follow.