Discovery / Fulfillment

Pretend to Be Unafraid: The Process of Making It

“You know, sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage, just literally 20 seconds of embarrassing bravery, and I promise you something great will come of it.” – We Made A Zoo

Everyone’s a traveler nowadays. But with all the promo airfares, cheap lodging options, tour packages, action cameras, Instagram followings, and photo editing apps, an important thing gets lost in translation for most people—the stories. Most adventures turn into events, not stories.

That’s part of the reason I made “Footsteps,” a travel magazine I launched last month. For all the storytellers out there to capture wonderful moments which make life so amazing, I made this project to give them an outlet to tell their personal stories of adventures, self-actualizations, epiphanies, and realizations.

Last year, I embarked on a two-month journey to four countries before going back to the Philippines to end my adventure in Cebu. I had the time of my life, and writing about my journeys is my way to relive the moments that took my breath away. I won’t let them fade into oblivion.

Upon writing about my trip to Singapore, I was surprised because it reached more than 3,000 words. I was planning to just post it on my blog, but I thought it was too long. That’s when the idea of creating “Footsteps” came to me. It was supposed to be a solo project, but halfway through writing about my trips, another idea came to mind: “What if I ask people to contribute their travel stories and I turn those stories into a magazine?”

That’s when I started pretending.

Yes, pretending, because I have an inferiority complex that makes me just want to disappear whenever I talk to intelligent and/or beautiful people. A part of me always thinks that “I’m not worth their time,” or “they’ll only reject me.” But I had a dream I want to make happen, so I needed to pretend that I don’t feel inferior.

That was rather difficult at first. To get one contributor to work with me, I asked a common friend to do the talking. It took three days and about five drafts before I finally sent Facebook messages to most of my contributors. I also had email drafts ready to be sent to three different people I follow on Instagram, but never got around to sending them because I felt afraid.

I pretended to know how to do a magazine layout. I pretended I’m qualified, experienced, and knowledgeable enough to know which design elements work and which doesn’t. I pretended people would read and download this thing I’m working hard for.

What I didn’t have to pretend about was how passionate and happy I am with what I was doing. It took a lot of hours, but I didn’t regret any second of it. It was nothing but a labor of love for me, and God knows I have so much love to give when it comes to creating.

It is only because of pretending that I did get to send the messages, I did get to work with these people I look up to, I did get to design a magazine that they say looks legit, and I did get to publish “Footsteps,” a body of work I am so proud of.

All those pretending was the only way I saw myself conquering my doubts and fears. But all those pretending also made me a more confident person. “Fake it till you make it” was once an irritating concept for me, but it worked! I guess if you want to be a better person, you’d have to pretend that you already are, and it will happen eventually.

If you have a dream, pretend you’re living it already. That will give you the courage, the drive, the patience, and all the more reason to work harder for it. “Making it,” first and foremost, is making something—out of your time, your talents, your resources, your support system, even your doubts and fears.

“What do I find so amazing that it’s worth the struggle?” – A question written on The Giving Journal.

Ask yourself that, and the struggle will be a piece of cake because your desire to reach your dreams will far outweigh anything and everything else. Although the destination is sweet, the path going there is what makes it all the more worthy.


About the Contributor

Kevin Tuazon is a Senior Associate Copy Editor in Affinity Express, a Contributing Writer in Elite Daily, and a Volunteer Counselor in LoveYourself. For more of his works, visit his blog.

This contributor is a customer of The Coffee Bean & Tea Leaf®.

See all of Kevin Tuazon's posts →

Artwork by Cindy Nuguit, our Brew Your Best Year Contributing Artist. For more of her awesome calligraphy and artworks, visit her Instagram.

Inspired? Give Your Thoughts!

Name and email are required fields. Your email address will not be published.
By posting a comment, you agree to the Terms & Conditions of the site.