They say that in order to develop a habit, you have to do it consistently for at least 21 days. And even if you’ve already did it for 20 days and then failed on the 21st, you still have to do it all over again and go back to day one.
The question is: What habit can you develop to add more joy to the lives of others?
Start simple: Develop a habit of smiling.
For me, this is an easy yet powerful habit to develop. Smile whenever you can and smile even if you don’t feel like smiling at all. You may not lift other’s spirit up, but at least maybe you could lift your own.
To your parents who prepare your breakfast everyday, give them a smile — have you ever thought that they probably didn’t get a good night sleep thinking of all the unpaid bills they have yet to settle? To the driver of the public vehicle you ride with on your way to your school or workplace everyday, give him a smile– he might not have had his breakfast yet, or he could have been working overtime since the previous night. To the security guards welcoming you as you enter your lobby or school, give them a smile– they might have had a hard time going to work, and a nice greeting coupled with a genuine smile from everyone who passes them is all they might need to make them love their job. To the elevator operator, she greeted you with a smile and much enthusiasm. Would you lose anything if you smiled back? To the janitor who has been diligently working to keep the bathroom and your area clean, give him a smile– who knows, you might be the only one who even took the time to notice him throughout the whole day. To your seatmate who has been struggling with finances and juggling work with other responsibilities at hand, try giving him a genuine smile– maybe this can open up a conversation that he so needs. To the waiter you placed an order with, give him a smile– you could be one of the few customers who actually took the time to show appreciation and thanks for his service. When you are lining up in a coffee shop, give a smile to the others lined up just like you– this could even somehow lengthen their patience while waiting.
Even if nobody has been smiling at you today, or even if you find yourself in a cold environment where people are just focused with their own lives, smile. Because in the end, what counts is how much we are able to make an impact in the lives of others with such a simple gesture.